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be sure to check out the comic too! ^_^
https://deergirl.online/comic1.html
(pdf versions of both the guide and comic are also available on the site)
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the html version of @lily's nonviolent communication guide is now live!
https://deergirl.online/nvc.html
if you:
• have feelings, wants, and needs
• interact with other human beings (or otherkin, etc.)
• run into conflict sometimes
...definitely consider giving it a read! ^_^
nvc is a great way to learn how to identify and express feelings, and to make sure you, your loved ones, etc. are "playing fair" when you run into conflict
deergirl.onlineNVC - A Concise Guide
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@NotImpressed Agree to disagree 
#NVC
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I'm so grateful that years ago, I learned Non-Violent Communication.
While I'm not always able to do it, or always able to do it well, being able to put on my "giraffe ears" is a crucial skill not only in personal relationships, but it can be in business as well.
Understanding the needs of others, whether they're collaborative partners, potential customers, suppliers, or staff, can make a huge difference. It shifts problematic actions away from "Ugg they're so annoying" or "Why won't they just do what we want?" to "I wonder what need of theirs isn't being met that's leading to this communication from them?"
By understanding the needs behind the words, we can bring empathy and care where there was only annoyance and frustration.
I wrote about how I spent years not knowing how to talk about feelings, masculinity, and #NonviolentCommunication and the difference it has made in how I resolve conflicts with others.
https://www.vinaygopinath.me/2025/05/nonviolent-communication/
www.vinaygopinath.meNonviolent communication · Vinay GopinathOr how I learned to feel and embraced conflict as an opportunity for growth
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@joshsusser @GreenRoc @punishmenthurts very familiar… and I’m adding to this thread #NVC as a toolset - specifically, “how we talk to ourselves” as a prequel to communicating to another : some resources : https://wiki.techinc.nl/User:Becha/NVC (I’ve experienced this in 3 languages & non-verbal too!)
wiki.techinc.nlUser:Becha/NVC - Technologia Incognita
Avoid defining reality
https://infighting.org/tools-and-practices/avoid-defining-reality
This is a common pitfall in dysfunctional relationships and volunteer groups with low relational competencies.
«We define someone’s reality when we communicate to them that we know what they think or feel better than they do. When we define someone’s reality, we believe and act as though we’re mind readers, as though we’re the expert on their experience.»
infighting.orgAvoid Defining Reality
Hear Bernadette Wesley at this year's #sociocracy conference on April 24!
See the program: https://www.sociocracyforall.org/sociocracy-conference-2025/
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Join us for our #sociocracy conference on April 24 - in exactly 8 weeks!
www.sociocracyforall.org/sociocracy-c...
Did anyone write about the #ReplyGuy problem in a #NonViolentCommunication framing? Surprising if not.
Introduction post. I am here to try and integrate something of the pain I am experiencing and through that find community. An acute and chronic pain is around the docility many people have in their digital lives and in particular my beloved #nvc communities who reside almost solely on bigtech. At the same time I would love to cross pollinate to support development of needs awareness and conflict practises in #tech #foss #hacker cultures, so that I might better meet my need for community! <3
"NVC, however, fosters a level of moral development based on autonomy and interdependence, whereby we acknowledge responsibility for our own actions and are aware that our own well-being and that of others are one and the same."
Generativist—#anarchism-adjacent #criptheory—#lumpentheory of #RentierSociety & #tensegrity fetters of #classposture #kyriarchy, with interest turning increasingly to societal #grief and collective acts of #mourning.
#cripplepunk meets #solarpunk
#abolitionist by way of #STS, #NVC, Pirsig.
#neologism by way of #neurodivergence.
Team #emdash.
Old school #programmer from before dotcom bubble, lately busy with weekly refresh of #ThisIsOurPolio #dataviz.
beadsland on Ko-fi.
Hi! I'm new here. Not quite ready for a full #introduction but wanted to start sharing some of my interests to connect with like-minded folks.
I think the better someone has learnt to embrace their own #feelings, however intense, interrupting or unpleasant they are, the more #trustworthy this someone will be perceived by the people surrounding them.
That makes sense to me, of course;
with less surpressed emotions, less overwhelming surprises will manifest in abusive behaviour towards the environment.