I post about #chronicillness and #chronicpain every so often and I think perhaps the most frustrating people I encounter end up not being the folks who are currently able-bodied. Believe it or not it’s usually other people who have a physical #disability or are similarly #disabled.
The #ableism i get! I block and move on with my life and I hardly bat an eye. It absolutely floors me when I’ll post something that has some component of “Hey, gentle reminder that not everyone can do X, Y, and Z which is why A, B, and C are super important” and I’ll get folks who will reply with some flavor of “Well I’m disabled and I have no problem with this so therefore everyone can do this.”
Just…holy shit biscuits! You’d figure if anyone would get that everyone has different capabilities and different thresholds, it would be someone who is literally living that experience!
Whoa…I just realized that I’m literally doing the exact same thing, just from the other side. Thinking that because someone has shared an experience that they must process it a similar way. Damn…
I love that even though I’ll be 50 this year, I’m still open enough to new ideas to be comfortable with not being right all the time. I guess with what I wrote above, maybe it’s a lot like how some people that grew up being bullied say “never again” while others shrug and say “it’s not a big deal, I turned out okay.”
Well…damn! I guess instead of venting my frustrations, y’all got to hang out with me and my stream of consciousness while I worked through that little mental snarl. I guess we all just process things differently and some of us are just more compassionate than others and that’s all there is to it.
Good talk, I’m glad we had this chat.